tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7943339383777904038.post1894050091248190219..comments2023-10-18T04:14:42.928-04:00Comments on A Uterus Divided: On being...adminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05496649217972403072noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7943339383777904038.post-67815666860746002922008-03-08T17:01:00.000-05:002008-03-08T17:01:00.000-05:00I lost myself in IF for a while. I once told my h...I lost myself in IF for a <I>while</I>. I once told my husband that "wife of an amputee" was part of how I described myself. He responded "That is sad". I told him he was right. But the truth is that for about a year I felt like most of my identity was wrapped up in what he or I didn't have, what we couldn't do... I managed to start reclaiming the old me by throwing myself into my job. Now that I'm starting to recognize myself again, I'm actually getting a bit of cold feet about changing the rules again... i.e.,TTC... <BR/><BR/>Finding yourself, knowing yourself, balancing your different selves... all such hard work.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07923049494756911105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7943339383777904038.post-3897422929178368802008-02-25T12:16:00.000-05:002008-02-25T12:16:00.000-05:00This is exactly what I have been thinking myself l...This is exactly what I have been thinking myself lately. I have had 2m/c, 25week SB, and 2 surgeries to fix a septum. I feel that my life revolves around having a baby. I feel like my life has been put on hold - I have lost focus at work and home. Such a struggle.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7943339383777904038.post-22124096293032805602008-02-23T11:38:00.000-05:002008-02-23T11:38:00.000-05:00Yes! Although my mom just had me and was unemploy...Yes! Although my mom just had me and was unemployed and on welfare and certainly wasn't as active as your mom (dude, spins and dyes her own wool?!), somehow she too made it clear that while I was the most important thing in her life, there was a whole other life she had outside of my presence. I don't know how she managed that as a single parent.<BR/><BR/>I, too, hope to achieve that same balance, and I, too, worry that I'll become one of those women who only talk about their children, whose personalities seem to become subsumed in the pictures their children draw, or how much they pooped, or the funny things they said in the bath.<BR/><BR/>So, yeah, I get ya.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com